Question: How can I masturbate beside using my hand? I'm nervous because I feel I’m starting to like masturbating too much, and I like putting things in my anus. I'm scared my mom might find out, please help.
You have given us quite a doozy of a first question. Thank you! I applaud your bravery in reaching out. First things first: You. Are. Normal. There is nothing wrong with masturbation. It is a healthy activity that allows you to connect with your body and helps you learn what types of touches you enjoy. Liking it “too much” only becomes a problem if it interferes with your daily life. Alternatives to masturbating with your hand will depend on if you’re a person with a penis or a vagina. When it comes to anal play, there are a lot of taboos surrounding it but people of all genders and sexual orientations enjoy it. Don’t be ashamed about doing it. Check out this article for more details: https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/anal-masturbation
Parents are rarely prepared to accept that their children can be sexual beings. Your mom probably knows that you masturbate even if she’s not ready to admit it. Besides the embarrassment of having your mom see you in the act, is there another reason you’re worried? Please write back to bklynfuture@bklynlibrary.org and I can advise you better.
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